The Author

C urrently indulging in her writing and publishing career, Delmesha is entering the Christian Self-Help genre with her debut title – Learning to Live Loved – which explores fatherlessness through her personal experience and how specifically it impacts her Father-daughter relationship with the Lord. With more than a dozen writing projects in her arsenal, she plans to write and publish more nonfiction, wholesome fiction and she’s in the process of developing a line of children’s books. .
A multifaceted spirit, to say the least, Delmesha Richards has gifts, skills, and experiences covering a spectrum that widens as her interests evolve. From IT project management and business consulting to family vlogging and losing her passport in Paris while traveling to Bamako, Mali, she literally does what she wants, when she wants. And she’s extraordinary at it all! .
Now residing with her husband in her hometown of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, they raise their three toddler boys while vlogging about marriage, parenting and their adventures in the city on their YouTube channel The Richards Revealed.

 

The less formal version of me…

Singleness is a blessing and I enjoyed most of my years as a single woman…but only after I learned how to become content.  After a time of continually falling into sexual sin, the Holy Spirit whispered to me “the man I send you, will not defile you.”  This totally changed the game for me and after a while I finally met the man who was THE man God set aside for me, and I for him.

It took a few months for me recognize that my husband, Ivan, was the man I would marry.  #1, we met online, #2 we met online and #3 he lived hundreds of miles from me and I wasn’t interested in a long distance relationship.  But it was indeed meant to be.

Hallelu!

We entered into covenant and walked into a Christ-centered marriage that continues to thrive with Christ at the center; it’s been over 13 years now.  And we are both proud to have the privilege of noting that we abstained from sex until the day we were married and it was absolutely worth it.

Marriage has been wonderful and amazing… it has also been difficult and dreadful!  Ivan was a mess in his own way and I was a mess in my own way.  But the #1 thing that keeps us together as we trudge through the mud of learning how to become one flesh, is the fact that there is no uncertainty in the fact that God brought us together.  The second thing that has kept us resilient through the years is our being intentional with reading faith-based books and articles, listening to podcasts and other broadcasts concerning marriage and how to have a healthy and balanced marriage.

We’re in our sweet spot finally, but we’ve paid our dues and were intentional about doing…not just desiring!  I love being a wife and I love all of the wonderful privileges that come with being Ivan’s wife!!  Soon, we’ll be launching a podcast where we’ll be talking candidly and transparently about the ups and downs of REAL marriage. #nofilters

Becoming and Being a Mom

By far one of the most beautiful privileges I have!

There was a time when I wasn’t able to have children.  I went to a couple of OB’s and wasn’t satisfied with what they had to say which led me to approach the ultimate Doctor to inquire of His plan and will.  In 2010, my church was having a corporate fast that led up to Palm Sunday and my husband and I decided to join in.  My #1 request was for the Lord to reveal whether it was in His will for us to bear children of our own.  Ivan and I kept this desire and request to ourselves and proceeded with fasting and praying for 21 days with our church family.

The day the fast ended was Palm Sunday and after a “high time” in the Lord, I was at the altar picking up the palms that fell while the congregation marched around the sancturary.  I spotted a woman making a beeline for me and it made me nervous at first! I thought, Oh Lord, what does she want?  She came up to me and asked me if that was my husband in the back as she pointed to Ivan.  I confirmed that it was and she told me to follow her.  I did and she brought me to sit next to Ivan; as I sat beside him she introduced herself as the guest preacher’s wife and said she received a message for us.  She said,

“When you placed your seed in my husband’s hand, the Lord dropped in

my spirit that He is going to bless the fruit of your womb.”

With no shame, I burst into tears and wailed as I allowed myself to feel the joy of God’s promise and the release of my fears that brought such a relief to my aching soul.  There’s nothing like receiving a specific word from the Lord that answers our most fervent prayers.  And He sent His word in a way that would be undeniable.

It felt like to took forever to manifest though.  Granted, I was no Sarah, but I’d say more like Hannah.

Five years later, the Lord’s promise manifested and I gave birth to our first son, Ivan Jr., in the comfort of our home.  Then our second and third sons were conceived…and they were not planned!!  Plus, my desire was to have two boys and two girls and although I still desire a girl, it puts me in a bit of a pickle because she needs a sister…which puts us out to five whole kids.  #prayforme

I currently stay home with our boys and it is a doozy among many other things, but I do love it (as a whole) and wouldn’t change it.  I have also been changing my paradigm as it relates to parenting.  My sons deserve so much more than what I had to offer them as their mom, so I have been very intentional with leaning on the Lord in my quest to be a better mom.  And like always, He comes through.  And this just may be another book!

Becoming and Being a Mom

By far one of the most beautiful privileges I have!

There was a time when I wasn’t able to have children.  I went to a couple of OB’s and wasn’t satisfied with what they had to say which led me to approach the ultimate Doctor to inquire of His plan and will.  In 2010, my church was having a corporate fast that led up to Palm Sunday and my husband and I decided to join in.  My #1 request was for the Lord to reveal whether it was in His will for us to bear children of our own.  Ivan and I kept this desire and request to ourselves and proceeded with fasting and praying for 21 days with our church family.

The day the fast ended was Palm Sunday and after a “high time” in the Lord, I was at the altar picking up the palms that fell while the congregation marched around the sancturary.  I spotted a woman making a beeline for me and it made me nervous at first! I thought, Oh Lord, what does she want?  She came up to me and asked me if that was my husband in the back as she pointed to Ivan.  I confirmed that it was and she told me to follow her.  I did and she brought me to sit next to Ivan; as I sat beside him she introduced herself as the guest preacher’s wife and said she received a message for us.  She said,

“When you placed your seed in my husband’s hand, the Lord dropped in

my spirit that He is going to bless the fruit of your womb.”

With no shame, I burst into tears and wailed as I allowed myself to feel the joy of God’s promise and the release of my fears that brought such a relief to my aching soul.  There’s nothing like receiving a specific word from the Lord that answers our most fervent prayers.  And He sent His word in a way that would be undeniable.

It felt like to took forever to manifest though.  Granted, I was no Sarah, but I’d say more like Hannah.

Five years later, the Lord’s promise manifested and I gave birth to our first son, Ivan Jr., in the comfort of our home.  Then our second and third sons were conceived…and they were not planned!!  Plus, my desire was to have two boys and two girls and although I still desire a girl, it puts me in a bit of a pickle because she needs a sister…which puts us out to five whole kids.  #prayforme

I currently stay home with our boys and it is a doozy among many other things, but I do love it (as a whole) and wouldn’t change it.  I have also been changing my paradigm as it relates to parenting.  My sons deserve so much more than what I had to offer them as their mom, so I have been very intentional with leaning on the Lord in my quest to be a better mom.  And like always, He comes through.  And this just may be another book!

The Every Day Me

In a nutshell, I don’t do much!  But then again, I do a little bit of EVERYTHING!

The majority of my time is spent being a mom.  Most people don’t quite understand how much work it is to be a stay at home mom – the constant and unrelenting emotional and mental demands.  Especially with all toddlers!

Most of my days are spent doing routine and mundane things.  I’m also beginning to homeschool my three year old and having to constantly keep toddlers is exhausting…but it’s what I signed up for so I’m not complaining (for the most part).  Having a community of other stay at home moms helps tremendously with managing the downsides of parenting full-time.

Outside of home life, I have different entrepreneurial endeavors and involvement in a couple non profit organizations that I enjoy.  They keep me engaged with other adults, keeps my ear to the pavement when it comes to business and the industries I like and I’m able to break away from the demands of life with toddlers.  And now, my newfound writing and publishing career is incredibly energizing and is keeping me a little busier than I’d like.  But once I get the swing of things, I’ll be good to go!